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Goldilocks and the 3 Zones |
Countering Entitlement with Frustration Tolerance |
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Many children today expect things to come easily. When learning feels hard, frustration quickly follows—and sometimes, disrespect or giving up. As parents, our first instinct
is often to step in and make things easier. But if we want to raise resilient, capable kids, there’s a better way.
We can help our children by teaching two powerful skills: frustration tolerance and an understanding of the learning zone.
Building Frustration Tolerance
Frustration isn’t failure—it’s feedback. It tells us we’re stretching, learning, and growing. When kids learn to tolerate frustration, they build the emotional strength they’ll need for life.
Here’s how we can help:
Allow them to struggle: Resist the urge to jump in right away. Give them a chance to wrestle with the challenge.
Offer support, not solutions: Try saying, “That looks hard. I’m here if you need me,” or “What’s one thing you could try next?”
Celebrate effort over outcome: Highlight persistence and courage. “You kept going even when it was tricky—that’s resilience.”
The Learning Zone: Where Growth Happens
Think of your child’s learning like Goldilocks and her porridge—not too hot, not too cold, but just right.
Comfort Zone: Everything feels easy. It’s safe but not stretching.
Panic Zone: The challenge feels too big. They shut down.
Learning Zone: The sweet spot—challenging but manageable. This is where growth happens.
When children understand these zones, they start to see struggle differently. Frustration isn’t something to avoid—it’s a sign they’re in the right place to grow.
This simple reframing counters an entitled mindset that thinks that everything should be easy, and, instead, empowers them to tolerate frustration and build resilience.
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Want to explore strategies to counter the entitled mindset at home? |
Want to learn more?
Join us for Answers with Justin this Term 4, where we’ll explore practical ways to counter entitlement and build genuine resilience in our children.
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Entitled |
Raising Responsible, Respectful Kids |
Wednesday 5 November
7pm AEST // 8pm AEDT |
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This webinar was a frank and honest conversation about modern-day parenting. It's so refreshing to hear advice that doesn't make parents feel blamed or confused about the struggles of raising kids in today's new world. This support is invaluable.
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RIMA O.
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